Go For Feeling Good, Not ‘Right’

“Do what makes you feel good.”

Whether it’s Eckhart Tolle, Wayne Dyer or Abraham Hicks, the messages on repeat throughout the spiritual literature is to spend your time and energy on doing the things that make you feel good.

As in…


In these good reads, NEVER have I read:

  • that you should say ‘yes’ to starting a free FB group because it’s the ‘right’ thing to do according to your biz buddies;
  • that you should burn the midnight oil (and say sayonara to self-care) in order to meet a client’s deadline, or
  • that you should spend 80% of your waking hours looking for approval from your boss, in hopes to finally feel happy (worthy).

And that’s because in the soul-fulfilling realm, it’s not about them. It’s all about YOU.

If your only task today were to do the things that make you feel good, alive and absolutely joyous, what would you do?

Here’s how my client-free days would pan out (FYI, I’ve now blocked two days of the week for that! #flowlikeaboss).

I’d have a lazy morning. I’d wake up and devour my oatmeal and a flat white before showering.  I’d pop a load of laundry into the wash, not because I need to, but because I love the smell of fresh linens.  I’d be intentional about setting the tone for my day, probably by starting with morning pages and ending with a feeling word that I’d hold as a measure of success for the day.

I’d sit for a few hours on my plush white sofa and read a few pages of 3 different books – because it’s not about being ‘productive’ but about following my urges (because that feels good).

AND, I’d write a blog that is ‘selfish’ in nature. How?  Because I’d write about concepts that help ME lock in what I’m learning on this journey called life (like the lesson in this blog!).  And it might have a side effect of providing a-ha moments for you. But notice who came first. wink.

I may not get highly ranked in the world of social media or get published in the Huff post, but I’d feel on purpose. Authentic.

And that has more resonance than forcing out a ‘how to’ blog…because everyone says that’s what will get me noticed. 

In her book Big Magic, Elizabeth Gilbert explores the concept of creating for yourself, vs for others:

“Recognizing that people’s reactions don’t belong to you is the only sane way to create. If people enjoy what you’ve created, terrific. If people ignore what you’ve created, too bad. If people misunderstand what you’ve created, don’t sweat it. And what if people absolutely hate what you’ve created? What if people attack you with savage vitriol, and insult your intelligence, and malign your motives, and drag your good name through the mud? Just smile sweetly and suggest – as politely as you possibly can – that they go make their own f**king art. Then stubbornly continue making yours.”

So you see, you need to be selfish in your creative, business and life endeavours.



I’ve always been a fan of the word selfish even though so many people paint it as a negative one. As if it means to be heartless or cold. But that’s not what I mean when I say to be selfish.

Here’s my definition.

Selfish means loving yourself enough to treat yourself FIRST - like a queen. Click To Tweet


And guess what?

When you fill yourself up first, put ‘feeling good’ ahead of to-do lists and other people’s demands and treat yourself like the 10 star woman that you are, you FEEL lit up.

And when you FEEL lit up, something inside you shifts. You feel inspired, creative and even more attractive!  And then you start to attract more inspiration-giving experiences into your life. You build creative momentum.

And as you build momentum, you ironically inspire others.

And you’re able to serve them from a much better place, in a much better way. #win-win.

So, as Queen of your life, what’s the order for the day? What will you indulge in today – whether it’s for a minute or an hour, that has you feel good?

Or, what will you say no to in order to say yes to feeling good?

Leave a comment below and let’s create some feel-good momentum!

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